I've really been trying to focus this week on being less selfish in marriage.
I want to make sure that I am always putting Taylor's needs ahead of my own, 100% of the time.
And, as I'm sure most of you married folk would agree, it takes work.
Last night, Taylor came home from a really hard day at work.
I had already mentally scheduled out my night: finish cooking dinner, go to the gym, fold all laundry.
When Taylor came home, we talked about his day, and then I was ready to get started on my mental "to-do" list.
But as I stood up to finish cooking dinner, I stopped.
I knew that my to-do list wasn't half as important as cheering Taylor up.
Sure, I had given him a hug, a kiss, some sympathy, and a little cuddle time--but he was still upset over his "rough day."
As hard as it was for my little brain that goes 1,000x-per minute when to-do items are on the list, I decided to make the rest of the night about Taylor.
Taylor's all-time favorite thing is going out to eat, and I'm a little bit of a nazi when it comes to spending money on food.
But last night, I decided Taylor could use a few of his favorite things.
I stopped making dinner and told Taylor we were going out to eat instead.
And, after eating, we would come home and cuddle up to a movie.
And you know what?
Last night is going in the books as one of the most fun nights we had.
We talked about some real things in our lives and had the best conversation at dinner.
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Even though I had to break my perfect streak for working out in 2014, and even though those clothes still aren't folded, and even though that dinner only got half-made--it was worth it.
every. single. second.
I think I'm often so focused on things that "need to get done" that I miss out on the little things.
I want to be more focused on rain-checking my to-do list, instead of rain-checking life.
Especially when it comes to spending time with my cutie husband.
It's the little things--like cuddling up to a movie on a Tuesday night--that are so special in life.
xoxo
Love this! It's such a great reminder that good relationships take empathy, care, and work (even if that work turns out to be fun - which I'm glad your night did!) This is the kind of stuff I remember as a whole, but sometimes forget in the little day-to-day moments. Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeletePS - you two are an adorable couple!
it's so true! thanks, nina!
DeleteThis is wonderful!! And you are so cute!! Love your post about how you turned around your case of the Mondays by forcing yourself to smile!!
ReplyDeletethanks, elena! it works!
DeleteHow sweet! I love spontaneous date nights!
ReplyDeleteme too! aren't they just the best!?
Deletehow cute are you! this is so important to remember and i was actually JUST thinking about this last night, in my own marriage. my husband did something that made me think he was being a little selfish, and i almost immediately realized that i had been selfish, too! it's constant work to find a good balance, way to go, though! you are a rockstar.
ReplyDeleteit is totally constant work! thanks for your thoughts--I totally agree with you. it's hard--but worth it!!
DeleteHi! Visiting from the link-up! Love this post! Unexpected date nights are the best!!
ReplyDeletearen't they the absolute best!? i love them!
DeleteVisiting from the link up... unexpected date nights are amazing! I dearly miss them -- take advantage of them whenever the moment strikes! So glad you guys got to enjoy each other!
ReplyDeletethanks, jenny!
DeleteVisiting from the link up!! This was a great post!!! Something I personally needed to hear.
ReplyDeletethanks, chrissy! it means a lot!
Deletei needed to hear this kell- it IS hard putting their needs before our to do lists!
ReplyDeletethanks, lexi! it is totally hard! but worth it!
DeleteThis was too sweet.
ReplyDeletethanks, karra!
DeleteMaking time for our significant others is so important! How sweet to have a weeknight date. Hope he got cheered up!
ReplyDeleteit is! even though it's sometimes hard to consciously remember!
DeleteAww! You all are so cute! This has been something I've had to work on A LOT since having Clay. Sometimes the laundry doesn't get folded or the dishes don't get done but I make sure that we spend time snuggling and laughing each day!
ReplyDeleteIsn't that the truth!? the laundry isn't half as important!
DeleteThanks for the reminder... I always try to remember this, but like you said, when you have so much to do, it's easy to get caught up on your life! This is the best reminder - and I LOVE that it turned around so well!
ReplyDeletesara! yes, I totally agree! I'm always in need of a reminder myself. thanks for the comment!
DeleteYes, I love everything about this post! Minus the rough day for your husband. I love that you shelved your to-do list so you could have a great cheering up night instead. I bet he really appreciated that, and you ended up having a blast too. They make a dewrinkle setting on the dryers for a reason =)
ReplyDeletehaha! so true!
DeleteThis is awesome. I need to remember this myself. You're such a good wifey! :)
ReplyDeleteahh, why thank you! means a lot!
DeleteThis is precious!! Being a Mama I am always putting Mason ahead of everything (naturally) and I have to really remind myself that I am a wife, too. You two are just adorable. Love that picture.
ReplyDeletethat's a good point! I know it will only get more challenging as we add to our little family!
DeleteSo darn sweet...and such a great reminder! You two are adorable :)
ReplyDeletethanks, vanessa!
DeleteSo sweet! I'm glad you two had an impromptu date night! Precious picture. :)
ReplyDeleteimpromptu dates are always the best, aren't they!?
DeleteI can say it's a real challenge putting your spouse above yourself! I LOVE this book, Women Living Well by Courtney Joseph. Talks about marriage and your husband. Along with great extras for the future like children and the home.
ReplyDeleteLoved your post.
xoxo
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oooohhh thanks for the tip! I'll have to pick it up! I'm excited!
DeleteOkay, you two are BEYOND beautiful! And I agree, showing love to your spouse should definitely be on the top of our priority lists ... and boy, can that be hard but it has it's rewards!! :) xoxo
ReplyDeleteThis is so perfect! We're totally alike in having the mental to-do list and hating to spend $$$ on eating out! Seriously, we spent $40 on some quick BBQ the other night...ridiculous! BUT, the time together, alone, was worth it. You were so sweet to have realized that your hubby needed you more that night than you needed the gym or to get that laundry folded...and I admire you for that! Thanks so much for sharing this with us and I hope to see you back linking up this week!
ReplyDeletexoxo
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